Re: Celibacy: Everyday Presentations

Donna M. Lanclos (lanclos@GARNET.BERKELEY.EDU)
Fri, 15 Dec 1995 08:57:33 -0800

OK, but don't you think your typology of "spouselessness" is a bit
insulting to those people who consider their same sex partners to indeed
be spouses, in the "lifetime partner" sense of the word? I realize that
you are defining ceilbacy in a very particular way, but it is a way that
seems fraught with the potential for misunderstanding and difficulty.
Donna Lanclos
UC Berkeley Dept of Anthropology

On Fri, 15 Dec 1995, SS51000 wrote:

> Here is a refinement of Sexual Preference and Sexism Protest as everyday
> explanations for celibacy (in the spouselessness sense). Both of these
> can stress either attraction to same sex or repulsion by the opposite
> sex. In explaining Mr. X's celibacy, then, someone using the Sexual
> Preference form could say either "He likes men," or "He doesn't like
> women." Using Sexism Protest to explain her own celibacy, a woman could
> say either "I am expressing solidarity with women," or "I am opposing
> oppression by men." (My examples go from third-person about a man, to
> first-person about a woman, for the purpose of plausibility; and what
> sounds plausible for the different forms perhaps is itself worth
> considering more closely.) Thanks again to Kathleen Gillogly for the
> Sexism Protest type! --Bob Graber