Re: this may be a shocker

douglass st.christian (stchri@MCMAIL.CIS.MCMASTER.CA)
Wed, 13 Apr 1994 10:59:55 -0400


without taking away from an apology you feel you must make, let me at
least tell you that i never once felt slighted by your comments or your was my rush limbaugh crack and i was occasionally frazzled by
many people's over the top approach to arguing about what, in the end,
was a rather simple issue...

stephanie is an interesting person who, IMHO, took offence far to
easily...and her reaction this time, to what i read as mild reproofs
rather than hurtful boorishness, surprised me given what she put up with
and more during the gil hardwick wars of 1993...

in any informal forum there is posturing and aggrandizing snipes and at
times very poorly thought out jibes...i do it myself, sometimes to readily
but always with good intention...i've been to too many conferences in
recent years, engaged in too many hilton hotel corridor arguments that
make anthro-l look like a teaparty to not have realized one thing we all
need is a thicker skin... bloodless politeness is no my idea of talk...

we can have our cake and eat it if we want...we can both converse [ with
all the give and take and foul moods that that entails] and discuss in
the same place...

don't eat too much crow...i disagreed with your reaction to stephanie
nelson's name calling, but not with your saying it or even the way it was
said...i am a firm beleiver that staying in the kitchen sometimes means
putting up with the heat.....